Worst TTC Advice Ever
You’re past the annoying “So, when are you two going to try for a baby?” question -- now come the tips on trying to conceive. This is the worst TTC advice ever heard -- from the depressing (“Relax!”) to the weird (post-coital headstands) to the downright funny (“We’re supposed to do what with a turkey baster?). Read on for some outrageous answers.
"Just get drunk and you'll get pregnant!” Right because I HAVE to be intoxicated for the sperm to know where it's going. Thanks!
"Just relax and it will happen". When someone tells me this, I feel like it's almost a slap in the face.
“Try not to take a big poo after ovulating. You'll push everything out.” Obviously…
"When you sign up to adopt, I bet you'll get pregnant then! It worked for my friends!"
"Buy a really big turkey baster, that way you can really get those sperm in there. That's how I got pregnant." From the cashier at Wal-Mart when I bought some tests.
"Just relax. I know couples who've made themselves infertile because they stressed themselves out so much."
"Don’t have too much sex, or he will eventually be shooting blanks." My own OB confirmed this was false, there is no such thing as too much sex.
“Don't think about it because if you do you will jinx it.” Really? I didn't know brain activity affected fertility.
"You want some of my husband's sperm? His works REALLY well!" From a friend who just had her second baby.
"Stop drinking milk, the hormones are messing you up."
My cousin told me it was because we didn't have enough tragedy going on in our lives right now... He and his wife got pregnant when went they were flat broke and both jobless. Thanks cuz.
A coworker told me today to "make sure I put my butt in the air and do NOT go to the bathroom afterward or I will pee out all of the sperm.” No thanks... I don’t want a UTI!
"Get drunk and go do it in a parked car" If we are drunk, should we really be in a car?
“Drink orange juice and you will get pregnant"
"You should be having sex 8 times a day.”
"You do know which parts go where right? You are doing it right? Right? Maybe try reading a book about sex and make sure you're doing it right. From my grandma. -- ecleptic
“When you stop trying it will happen.” --
I had someone tell me to stand on my head for 15 minutes after sex and gravity will make conception occur. Um, yeah right -- after I pass out from the headache.
“Everything happens for a reason.” Ugh.
"Don’t wear tampons anymore, European women don’t have infertility problems because they don’t wear tampons"
“If your husband will drink Mountain Dew before sex then the sperm will swim faster and you'll get pregnant.” Given to me by a college educated woman who conceived the first month she tried and is now due with her 4th son!
"All you need is a bottle of wine and sexy underwear." I have a drawer FULL from my wedding shower -- 5 YEARS AGO!
"God has a plan." Really? Maybe God can speed up his plan.
What crazy TTC advice have you gotten? Share it below.
JUST BECAUSE YOU WERE RAISED LIKE THAT DOESN'T MEAN IT'S RIGHT!
Spanking may make a child more aggressive
Mon, Apr 12, 2010 (HealthDay News) --Spanking children when they're 3 seems to lead to more aggressive behavior when they're 5, even if you take into account the child's initial level of aggression.
In other words, the old "I'll-give-you-something-to-cry-about" approach appears to backfire, new research suggests.
"We all know that children need guidance and discipline, but parents should focus on positive, non-physical forms of discipline, such as time-outs, and avoid spanking," said study author Catherine Taylor, an assistant professor of community health sciences at Tulane University's School of Public Health and Tropical Medicine in New Orleans.
Corporal punishment, of which spanking is a relatively minor form, can have larger implications as well, according to experts.
"The article emphasizes how critical effective positive parenting is in breaking the cycle of violence and the potential to reduce overall levels of violence in our society," said Dr. Kathryn J. Kotrla, chairwoman of psychiatry and behavioral science at the College of Medicine, Texas A&M Health Science Center Round Rock campus.
Previous studies have also turned up a link between corporal punishment and aggression in children, but none has controlled for as many factors as the new one, published in the May issue of the journal Pediatrics.
Many organizations, including the American Academy of Pediatrics, counsel strongly against corporal punishment. An estimated 35 percent to 90 percent of parents still discipline their children this way.
For the new study, almost 2,500 mothers responded to questions about how often they had spanked their 3-year-old child during the past month. They were also asked about the child's aggression level at age 3, as well as various parental risk factors such as maternal depression, alcohol use and violence among other members of the family.
About half of the mothers said they had not spanked their child in the previous month, while 27.9 percent reported spanking one or two times, and a similar proportion -- 26.5 percent -- said they had used this type of corporal punishment more than twice during that time period.
Three-year-old children who were spanked two or more times in the previous month had a 50 percent increased chance of being aggressive when they turned 5, according to the study.
The study could not prove a cause-and-effect relationship, but it is the strongest research of its kind to date, the researchers said.
"We know that kids learn by what parents do, so if a child is hit for whatever reason, you're really teaching the child that hitting or acting out or being aggressive is OK," said Taylor.
"Another theory," she added, "is that the more frequently children are hit for whatever reason, the more stress they're feeling, which can impact brain development, emotional development and can impact behavior."
Psychologist Robin Gurwitch, program coordinator of the National Center for School Crisis and Bereavement, agreed. "This study emphasizes in an even stronger way than some previous studies that corporal punishment at a young age is associated with more aggression later," she said. "How do we help parents think through what might be some more effective strategies than corporal punishment, and there are several strategies. Parents need to develop a menu of possibilities."
Kotrla added, "This study further suggests that state and federal policy makers should address the issue of corporal punishment and its avoidance to reduce the cost of societal violence through effective parenting."
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